'Straitjacket Conversations' - One To One Wellness Coaching Sessions with Anthony

I have been offering one to one sessions with people experiencing extreme emotional and mental states for the past five years and I love it because I can see how much benefit people get from our exchanges.

These sessions have usually involved a Sei Ki HeartTouch session as well as talking time. This combination is amazing, but also for the past year and a half, I've been holding online video sessions with people and these have also been life changing events for people.

I call these meetings 'Straitjacket Conversations', not thankfully because I ever experienced a straitjacket, (though I was tied hand and foot to a bed overnight) but because a friend who I spoke to many years before had experienced this 'treatment' and we connected instantly with a depth and intensity which others would never be able to match, whatever their professional interest in the field of mental health.

As I shared more and more of these conversations, what I found was that there were several areas in which they seemed helpful:

The first and most important is my capacity to normalise the experiences so people don't feel alone in them.

I know exactly what it feels like to be in a non-ordinary state that does not end. The world 'outside' interacting with my mind like we are 'one', almost cartoon like. With no sense of whether I am alive or dead or in another universe. With emotions spiking into extreme panic attacks, paranoia rising naturally in response to the behaviour of others, revelations pouring into my mind as if I am talking with God, 'extra' objects and beings manifesting around me, voices both friendly and unfriendly appearing in my mind, helping me or suggesting I kill myself.

This is all normalised for me, and over a ten year period I got use to facing it and not going into fear too much. When you have walked the territory enough times, you can navigate it without too much fuss for oneself or others.

One friend / client (after a one hour conversation like this - we feel like friends!), was sectioned immediately after an experience similar to this, because he was afraid of the state, but with increased knowledge he might have been able to hold the experience and come back from it.

Another person tried to commit suicide and entered the psychiatric system because of the 'cartoon' state - but after a short conversation where we affirmed that she wasn't mad and that it was a natural human experience, she was able to look at it differently and consider whether she needs to train as a clairvoyant or at least learn to relax when it happens to her. As she experienced herself, you cannot 'helpfully' discuss this with 'most' people as they just say you are mad! They go into fear.

The second benefit I observe is linked to my self-acceptance of who I am, which is contagious.

If you can't accept yourself, you judge yourself and you are likely ashamed of 'who you are' and this puts you at war with yourself, creating serious difficulty inside. I have had to deal with relating to the 'dark side of God' within me. When you can love the 'dark' as well as the 'light', things get a lot easier.

I have also had to deal with 'being a failure' and having a 'wasted life'. It is actually nonsense and just a mental judgement but it doesn't seem like that when you are experiencing it. Everyone around you tends to think it's a wasted life as well. And this can cause terrible suffering. I nearly commited suicide partly because of this, partly because of my medication.

The third benefit is practical in terms of sharing my cognitive understanding of the experiences and how to navigate them safely.

When you grow up in a normal family and go to school you learn how to relate to the world around you. Unfortunately the current understanding of the universe shared in most families and schools does not prepare you for encounters with the unconscious or non-ordinary states and if this is your regular experience, there is much to learn.

The fourth benefit, I see comes from me sharing my enthusiasm and enjoyment of life, giving hope to people.

I am a happy person. Life will still have its ups and downs and many things may not be as I might have dreamt them, but the basic life is good, 'NOW'! (even with the Corvid-19 lockdown).

Just experiencing someone who has been through similar situations to yourself, come through them, and recovered offers more conviction than anything else that you yourself will get through. In my experience medical professionals tell you the opposite, that you will not get through and will need medication for the rest of your life.

I can go on... there are many things we can share including energy practices I use to balance my emotional state.


Important Notes:

Wellness Coaching: I am offering 'wellness / life coaching' sessions as an 'Expert by Experience'. I am not a regulated psychotherapist or counsellor. I have professional training and up to date insurance to work with individuals as a Mindfulness teacher, a Bodywork therapist and as a Tai Chi teacher.

This is a legal disclaimer: What you take from a session and put into action in your life is your personal responsibility. By engaging my services, I will assume you understand and accept this.

Personal Responsibility: I expect individuals to take responsibility for themselves. I cannot take this on myself, though I will support people as best I can. If the individual cannot do this then family members need to take responsibility. If there is a situation in which no one is able to take responsibility, then sadly this is where the mental health services play an important role in our society.

Psychiatry: In my experience the psychiatric profession plays an important health and safety role for the society but currently may not be helping individuals get well. Contact with the system, creates chronically mentally ill patients unless you are very very fortunate. At best you are medicated for a 'shortened' life and live a shadow of your human potential. This is very, very sad and most people prefer to look away unless it is your own life being ruined or that of someone you love. While this may be the only option for some people, as a psychiatrist once told me, if you can find any other path, take it...

Dangers - I am not naive as to the dangers inherent in non-ordinary experiences, but am not afraid of them in the way the majority of humanity are, especially psychiatric professionals. We will discuss this, and if in the end you need 24hr support (I did), then the options will include psychiatric care, hopefully for a short time.

Trauma & Suffering - In my experience, people experience mental health difficulties for a reason, not because of a random 'act of God'. Whether anyone wants to face the 'reason' is another matter. A benefit from having been 'cruxified' in my own journey is that I have a capacity to be with suffering in others. We may even be able to make light of it...

Practical Details & Fees

I would suggest people make an initial contact with me through this website: Contact Me

I will then either suggest a free short online chat on Whatsapp or Skype so we can get a feel for each other or we arrange a one hour paid session if you are already clear you want to work with me.

I charge £80 / hour for one to one sessions whether in person or online. Payment can be made by bank transfer or credit card via Paypal. I will send details. I request payment to be made before the agreed session.

Nb. I am not able to offer 'free' one to one sessions and I am well aware many interested people will be living on social benefits. Much of my activity in this field is unpaid or underpaid and this is where I choose to charge for my time. If we cannot meet in this way, please review the material I have already put online on my websites. I intend to create much more. Hopefully we will be able to meet in a group session in person sometime.

 

EasternPeace - OneToOne Online with Anthony. The Therapeutic work of Anthony Fidler.


Anthony Fidler 2016 - EasternPeace : Zen Mindfulness & Yang Style Tai Chi. I teach daily classes & short workshops wherever I am living as well as running Zen Mindfulness & Yang Style Tai Chi Holidays. I also offer Seiki Bodywork as a one to one therapy and facilitate Sei Ki workshops.
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